Wednesday, December 5, 2012

I finally found a few minutes to write something. I forgot what it was like to be busy every second of the day. Although I have to admit that I would not have it any other way. I love being home with Julian and having him all to myself. He is such a good boy and I can see so many similarities between him and Bella. Being that it's flu season Frank and I are being very vigilant with Julian and staying away from to many people and especially to being around people that are sick or have sick family members that live within thier household. Our pediatrician had told us that if a child under two becomes ill it is very dangerous. It is a risk thatI a not willing to take. It awkward to say to people that you would prefer that they would not come over at this time. But I am not afraid of an awkward conversation. My own sister hadn't seen Julian until he was almost One week and a half because my niece was ill and she did not feel well. My mother purposely took a week off of work to spend at my house but had a tickle in her throat so she went to the doctors and asked for a prescription just in case. I cannot say enough how much I appreciate that they did those things. It shows me that they respect my wishes no matter what they think of them. Being that Isabella caught a common virus that lead to something much worse I am on high alert of any illnesses (especially strep or throat issues). So do not take it personally if we decline a visit at this time. It is nice that Frank and I are on the same page regarding this. I think that he is as concerned as I am. Iris different raising achild after loss. The bliss of being a parent is often competing with the reality of what could be. Well I think that Iam going to try to sneak in some sleep while I can. Miss you Bella. Julian is so lucky to have you as a big sister.

4 comments:

Susan said...

What wonderful news - so very pleased for you and Frank. Welcome to the world Julian xx Please try not to worry -I know it is hard. I was very keen to avoid chicken pox, and would do things like avoiding people who had been in contact with a child who had it... but I stopped short of never going anywhere just in case we caught it. Can you have a discussion with your pediatrician about practical things you can do to minimise risk? I thought that once a child reaches 1 their risk of dying is pretty low? I also think the principle cause of death is SIDS - rather than infection. After 6 months, you could take the flu vacinne, but I have a feeling that assuming you were vacinatted, that the immunity crosses the placenta? Anyway, perhaps you can explain your fears and see what you can do to limit risk - telling you that a child getting sick under 2 is very serious, to my mind, is not especially helpful. Catherine was almost 4, and she died too. I suppose the thing is, you don't want to take unncecessary risks, but you need to be proportionate, so that you don't end up depriving yourself of all the pleasure that Julian will bring you, because you are so terrified of something that most likely wouldn't happen anyway - even if you took no precautions at all. Lots of love to you xx

marisa said...

Hi Susan,

It is so nice to hear from you. I retread my post and realize that I forgot to write the months after two. Two years would be a really long time. Even though, you and Iboth know that age does not protect our children. I think that once the holidays are over and Julian is over his two month mark, I may loosen up a bit. We will see.

Thinking of you and your precious girls,

Marisa













marisa said...

Hi Susan,

It is so nice to hear from you. I retread my post and realize that I forgot to write the months after two. Two years would be a really long time. Even though, you and Iboth know that age does not protect our children. I think that once the holidays are over and Julian is over his two month mark, I may loosen up a bit. We will see.

Thinking of you and your precious girls,

Marisa













michelle said...

Codie and I are the same as we take immense precaution over everything. It's hard for others to understand that but who cares we are justified and better to be safe than sorry and have our own piece of mind.xo to you, Frank Bella and lil Julian. ps email me a pic of him sometime. xoxo